Happiness or Ease

Guest post by Paula Borba

Happiness or Ease?

​It seems that people are in a race to be happy. Maybe, to be “the happiest”. For the opportunity of all the facilities that life has offered, people seek their accomplishments at all costs. Have you noticed that there is always a seemingly easier solution to achieving a goal?

To lose weight, take medication.
For sexual performance, take pills.
To get stronger, the anabolic.
To make it more beautiful, plastic surgery.
To earn more money, illegal behavior.
To socialize easily, drugs.
​ To have a higher school score, the intelligence pill.

People, happiness is not a goal! Happiness is not eased but is your daily state of mind to see the simplest things. And happiness is not being happy every day either! But to be able to notice happy moments throughout the day, on the other hand with not-so-happy things. However, your state of inner happiness will allow you to overcome sad moments. 

Happiness is walking on the beach without worrying about the perfect body. It's enjoying an ice cream without guilt. It's taking off the shoes that are bothering you without worrying about elegance. It's a laugh without being restrained.

Happiness is being you, without worrying all the time about the standards you must follow.
It's refusing an invitation and staying at home with no weight on your conscience. It's sleeping with no time to wake up.
​It's staying in your pajamas until lunchtime.

What is sought with these facilities is a recipe for happiness. But if, even in a recipe, each one gives their “tip” ... how do you want to label happiness? Then, reflect if the recipes of happiness from others and society are suitable for you. You can be happy with yourself or rather, in their own company and a good cup of coffee. This is called self-knowledge. Awareness of who you are, your values, your concepts. You are the one who knows what makes you happy. True happiness resides within your soul. Let yourself be understood.

True Happiness Resides Within Your Soul

​Realize the path you take every day, the trees and flowers you can see, the people on the street, and discover that you can have happiness everywhere.
Of course, we can take advantage of what the evolution of life has offered us: new pleasures, conquests, and comforts. However, don't just rely on that to be happy, which can be transitory and biased. It is not the events that will guarantee happiness. Happiness can be hidden, calm, and collected in your intimate, but it is solid and firm.
Finally, we can celebrate that more and more the life expectancy grows, and apparently, there will be time to satisfy one's dreams and desires.
These things are the ones that will bring you happiness, naturally.

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​Psychiatrist doctor
PhD in Psychiatry
Professor at University Potiguar, Brazil Writer
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