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Marketing

3/16/2023

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Guest post by Author Stephania Thompson

Literary Adventures:
5 Unique Places to Market Your Book

Are you an author looking for unique and inexpensive ways to market your book? I’ve got some great suggestions for you! My novel, Woven, debuted in June of 2022. Despite an amazing support team and substantial marketing efforts, the process felt a bit like shouting into the abyss.

 Maybe you can relate?

 It’s daunting, to say the least. There are literally thousands of books published every day. The question is, how are you going to get your book noticed in all that noise?
 I won’t pretend to have the answer, but I have a few suggestions if you’re willing to get creative. And the best part? Aside from the cost of your book itself, all these suggestions are entirely free!

 If you’re looking for unique and inexpensive ways to get your book noticed and read, maybe you’ll consider taking it on an adventure. And, no, I’m not talking about a safari, or fishing expedition (though, depending on your genre, those might work). I’m suggesting you take your book to a few unexpected places…and then, leave it there!
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 After comprehensive research (i.e., scouring social media to see what worked for other authors), I’ve put together a list of five creative locations you might want to consider. Leave a copy in all, or just one, and see what happens. You might be pleasantly surprised.

Location One: Your Local Library

A library might seem like the most obvious place to leave your book, but you’d be surprised how many authors discount it. Not only are libraries full of voracious readers, but they also have a captive audience that just might be interested in your book.

Consider donating a copy (instructions for submission are usually on the library’s website) or simply leave your book in a public area where it’s likely to be noticed. Additionally, most libraries have a generic form for readers to request books they’d like to read but the library doesn’t carry.
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Go ahead and request your book. Ask your loyal, local readers if they will, too. The more requests, the better!

Location Two: Coffee Shops

Coffee shops and cafes are fantastic places to leave your book…but be strategic.
Is there a couch where people lounge with their food or beverage? Leave a copy beside it, or on a table nearby. Some cafes already have bookcases in place for readers to swap. Take advantage of this space and leave your book for readers to discover. See someone reading a comparable book? Take the opportunity to make a recommendation and offer them a free copy. The possibilities are endless. You never know who you or your book might connect with! 

Location Three: Local/Independent Bookstores

Bookstores are another great place to leave your book. 

Try to find a spot that is heavily trafficked, such as a café table or a reading corner, or even the new release display. If you’re feeling especially adventurous, locate the section where your book would likely be shelved and place it there! 
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Additionally, don’t be afraid to approach local and/or national booksellers about stocking copies of your book. Many stores feature local or independently published authors, some exclusively so. It never hurts to ask.

Location Four: Airports

Airports are full of people looking for something to do while passing time, and many of them are readers. Leave your book in a highly visible spot, such as near a check-in desk or in the lounge area. If you can, try to leave multiple copies. Imagine all the places in the world your book might travel!

Location Five: Local Businesses

It’s likely you know some local businesses that would be interested in your book (hair salon, dentist, bank, etc.). Think of places where people tend to stand in line or wait for long periods of time. Leave a few copies of your book in an accessible area or ask the employees to spread the word. Perhaps they will become your next greatest fan. 
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These are just a few unique places to leave your book, but I’ll bet you’re already thinking of others. Want to up the ante? Sign the inside cover and leave a business card or bookmark. Write a brief note thanking the reader for their interest. Ask for a review or recommendation if they enjoyed it. There’s no telling what word of mouth can do!

I hope these suggestions have your creative juices flowing. If you have another unique marketing ideas, be sure to drop a comment below. Do you have a book marketing success story? We’d love to celebrate with you and share our literary adventures together!
 Thanks for reading, and best of luck!
 Until next time…

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Stephania Thompson is an award-winning author, poet, and freelance writer. She published her first full length novel, Woven (Orange Blossom Publishing) in 2022, and is hard at work on book number two. When not writing, working, or running after kids, she enjoys hiking with her doodle pup and a good audiobook. Learn more about Stephania and connect with her online www.stephaniathompson.com


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Who She Was

3/9/2023

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Guest post by Danielle Hines

Who She Was

"I was a writer too, you know," she said over the phone after asking me about my idea for a novel. This didn't surprise me. My grandmother was thoughtful, intelligent, intuitive, and empathetic—all cornerstones of a great writer. And immediately, my storyteller's brain imagined her in the 1930s, pen and paper in hand with her hair just so. Or perhaps she clacked away at a typewriter until her story or poem took shape. Of course, back then, love and marriage called. Children beckoned. But I didn't detect an ounce of regret in her voice, simply: "It's in your veins."

Feeling Seen

Every child in this world just wants to feel seen. And I think it's a talent to be able to see a child—past their behavior, straight through to their innocent little heart. It's a talent that can be honed, but it's also a gift that has been bestowed on some in a life-altering way. My grandmother, Norma, was one such person.
When I say life-altering, I mean for the people blessed enough to know her, to be loved by her. I have many cousins, but I think I speak for us all when I say our grandmother saw us. She knew each of us in a way that maybe our parents couldn't—being bogged down with the day-to-day stresses of raising a family. As kids, my brother and I would fly out West to stay with my grandparents over our summer holidays and I can say with full certainty that, during our stay, my grandmother spoke of each of my cousins at some point with a proud and glowing heart. We knew we were her world.
And somehow, she managed to love this way effortlessly. She was not a woman who was kind so that you would like her. She did not do things for others while secretly wanting recognition. She was naturally giving and loving.
I remember standing in line with her at the grocery store. First, she'd say, "Oh, Danielle. We forgot those cookies you love (Peak Freans and Viva Puffs). Go and grab them." And then she'd endear herself to the person ringing us through. She'd say, "This is my granddaughter and she's visiting us from Ontario." And inevitably, the grocery clerk had family there too and five minutes later, I'm certain Grandma had made yet another person's day. My adolescent irreverence would try to be annoyed at how long this often took but I never could quite muster it. She was just that good.
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Summers in British Columbia

My grandparents' home on Pender Island was the stuff of childhood dreams. Perched over the Pacific Ocean, the views were incredible. To be able to grow up spending summers seeing killer whales, sea lions and bald eagles was a blessing, to say the least. And indoors, Grandma's cooking and keen attention were a soft place to land at the end of a busy day. She taught me to play cribbage and 'Go Fish.' She introduced me to angel tea and peaches and cream pie. She let me watch soap operas with her. And I remember how much she disliked it when my brother and I fought. Like, it didn't just irritate her, it hurt her. And wow, even now, the thought of hurting my grandma in any way makes my chest go tight.
I was 12 when my grandparents moved to Abbotsford and I was there when they moved. I remember thinking how modern and fancy their new place was. And again, their home was the hub of many family gatherings. My brother and I would continue to visit when we could. I will never forget Matt going through a Kiss phase and bringing the cassette to play for our grandmother. She listened, truly listened, tapping her foot and keeping rhythm with her hand on her knee. And she did this without being patronizing. She was genuinely trying to connect with my brother and his interests.

It takes a Village

My grandmother loved my grandfather, her children, grandchildren, great-grandchildren and great-great-grandchildren fiercely. But her love was never an us versus them kind of thing. Her love was all-encompassing. She noticed and remembered so much about even the people we loved. If it mattered to us, then it mattered to her. My best friend as a kid had always wanted to be a chef. When she was thirteen, she showed my grandmother her take on a grilled cheese (which was basically to add Dijon mustard). For years afterward, she'd say: "Tell Olivia I still put Dijon mustard on my grilled cheese!"
I can only hope I've inherited some traits from Grandma. Like listening. Even now, I can see her sitting with my Aunt Sharon or Linda, or with one of my cousins. She's holding her mug of coffee, listening intently, nodding, giving her full attention, offering a kind word, understanding, a safe space. We all need someone like this in our lives. I'm glad I got to see it growing up so I can try to emulate it now.
She was so proud of all of us, and we knew it. And proud doesn't begin to describe how we feel about her.

She was a writer

Grandma was a writer. She was a wife, mother, grandmother, friend, sister, daughter. But more than these, she was a model of how to be in this world. Through ups and downs, through life's wins and losses, she remained kind, never disillusioned. Everyone who was fortunate enough to be in her presence left her feeling better than they did before.
She did that. That is who she was.
Photo courtesy of Sharon Hilts.

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Danielle Hines is the author of the upcoming Sweetwood series (2023) and Without Fear of Falling. She is a freelance writer and editor of both fiction and non-fiction. Danielle makes her home with her husband and their three children just outside of Toronto, Canada. To connect with Danielle online, join her on Twitter where she participates in daily writing challenges, and visit her website:
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The Talk

3/2/2023

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Guest post by Lauren Barineau

​The Myth of “The Talk:” The Importance of Talking about Sexuality Early and Often with Kids

For most parents, the thought of having “the talk” with their kids is overwhelming.  Not only do we feel unprepared to navigate conversations about sexuality, we worry that we’re sharing more information than our kids can handle, or that we’re giving permission for kids to engage in specific behaviors. 
​But, research indicates that the more frequently and openly we talk about sexuality with kids, the healthier they are.  

Talking with kids early, often, and in age-appropriate ways about topics related to sexuality establishes you as a trusted adult and enables you to shift from having just “the talk” to having many talks through childhood. This helps kids process their attitudes and values around sex, informs their decisions as they get older, and removes feelings of stigma and shame.  Below are some general tips for proactively starting conversations with your kids. So, what will you say today?

Sexuality is more than sex.

Although it’s likely that we grew up thinking about “sex ed” as the mechanics of reproduction and birth (and maybe how to prevent it), sexuality is much more than acts of intercourse. Instead, it’s a big umbrella under which information about boundaries, consent, body safety, friendships, romantic relationships, body image, gender roles, sexual orientation (and more!) falls. In our digital age, this even expands to sexting, pornography, and digital communication. And, starting the conversation about body parts and personal boundaries in small ways with your little kid helps you navigate conversations about asking for consent for sex as they grow into your big kids. 

Avoiding the conversation ​is saying something about sex.

Many people are uncomfortable talking about sex with their kids - it’s understandable!  Common reasons for this are that adults are worried they don’t know the answer or that kids aren’t developmentally ready.  When you choose not to have critical conversations, kids are still learning about sex, but they’re learning that it’s something that your family doesn’t talk about, or that it’s shameful or bad. When parents avoid discussing sex, kids and teens feel closed off from important and reliable information and will likely seek information from less reliable sources. 

Start small and gain confidence.

Committing to having positive and proactive conversations about sex doesn’t mean that you have to start at the deep end.  Start where you feel comfortable, whether it’s explaining diverse families, or that most boys have a penis and most girls have a vulva, or perhaps that it’s okay to say no to hugs and kisses from family members you don’t want.  The more often you talk, you’re letting your child know that you’re a trusted adult they can seek out for answers and you’re building your own muscle for more complicated conversations as kid’s get older.  All conversations about sexuality, even small ones, normalize talking about it in safe and positive ways.

Clarify your own values about sex.

We all have values about sex (and not just about when it’s the right time for the first time). Talks about sexuality between families should include values and facts. It’s important to think about your sexuality values and consider how you might communicate those values to your kids. For example, have you ever considered how you feel about body hair removal? Who should remove hair? At what age? From which body parts? All of those answers reflect your values about that behavior.  Also consider what influenced your values.  It may be that they were based on generational differences, religion, or are rooted in bias about gender, sexuality, or race. Once we know what we believe and why, it becomes easier to share our values with our kids. 

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Lauren Barineau, MPH, CHES, is the founder of Talk More; focused on positive and proactive conversations about sexuality among families. A dynamic facilitator with 15 years of experience as a sexual health professional, Lauren has a depth of experience working with schools, youth, and communities in support of effective sexuality education on local, state, and national levels.

Lauren started Talk More to change the narrative around sexuality conversations in families and communities, making these talks more positive and frequent, less shaming, and integrated seamlessly as a part of every person’s childhood.

Lauren earned her Master’s in Public Health from Emory’s Rollins School of Public Health and lives and works in Atlanta, GA with two little ones who challenge her to think creatively about this work every day. She can be found at www.talk-more.org

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Book Marketing

2/23/2023

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Post by Author Arielle Haughee

A Step-by-Step Book Marketing Timeline

Often when writers hear marketing, they turn and run screaming. Well, maybe not literally, but the word definitely causes anxiety for many. Questions abound: What do I do? When? How do I do it? How much time will it all take? Do I have to? Here is a quick answer: You will get out of marketing what you put into it. No marketing, no sales. But that doesn’t mean you have to spend every waking minute with a megaphone shouting on the street corner: “Buy my book!” (Please don’t.)
Just like one plotting method doesn’t work for all writers, one marketing plan won’t work for every author. The key is to think about what resources you have, including time, people, and money, and make them work the best for you. Marketing is like a science experiment. Test something out and see if it works. Sometimes it will and sometimes it won’t. The key is to learn as quickly as you can what does work for your particular book. And remember that this is a marathon and not a sprint. If you stop marketing after your pub day, your sales will stop, too.

When do I start with book marketing?

As soon as you can! The longer you have to make people aware of your book, the more people you will be able to reach. If this is your first book and you don’t have a cover yet, don’t worry. Marketing starts with you making people aware of who you are and what you do. That’s it. My name is Arielle and I am a children’s author. Bam. I just started my marketing with you. Spread the word on social media, when you’re chatting with friends, when meeting new people…it’s something you bring up in conversation. You don’t have to be pushy or salesy, just be yourself and talk about what you do, sharing the joy it brings you.

A Loose Interpretation of the Word “Timeline”

It would be wonderful if all of us had the same amount of ample time to plan the perfect dates to do each task on the timeline below. But that’s not the real world. I see so many book marketing timelines that declare you “have” to release your cover image at exactly three months before you publish, then you “have” to set up preorders at exactly one month and so on. Even worse, there are writers out there who tell other writers that if their book is already out, it’s too late to start marketing. I am going to write this in shouty capitals: IT IS NEVER TOO LATE TO MARKET YOUR BOOK. Yes, it is ideal if you have a marketing plan in place months before your release, but sometimes people don’t learn this until after they’ve already gotten their book out.
So don’t worry. No matter where you are in the publishing process, you can start marketing. I’ve done a full year-long structured plan for a book release. I’ve also only had a few weeks. Last week I did a little experiment to see if I could format a book a bit differently and it ended up working. So this time I will be marketing after the book has already been up on Amazon. The point is: Start wherever you are.

Book Marketing Timeline

Usually I start by selecting a reasonable pub day, also known as your book birthday. Then I work backwards from there. Remember, jump in whenever you can. There are some things I recommend to do before pub day that you can do afterward. If you are being traditionally published, several of these steps will be completed for you. So, take a look and adjust as necessary to your situation.
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Additional Resources

There are a lot of things to do in there! Unfortunately, I couldn’t stop to explain the details of every single step because then I would be writing a book instead of a blog post. So here are some links to help you get more information about different steps:
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  • Market Research: A Publishing Necessity
  • Book Cover Design Basics
  • Free 3D book cover maker
  • The Online Marketing Trifecta: Websites, Blogs, and Newsletters
  • Email Newsletters for Authors: A Get Started Guide
  • The Complete Guide to Creating an Author Website
  • 10 Tips for Authors on Using Social Media from a Literary Agent
  • 30 Book Awards You Should Know About
  • Kindle Ebook Preorder Setup
  • How to Get Reviews for Self-Published Books
  • How to Build a Team of ARC Readers
  • Free Amazon Book Advertisement Course: Ads for Authors
  • How to Write a Book Press Release Like a Pro
  • Book Brush: Make Quick, Professional Book Ads
  • Planning Your First Virtual Book Event
Happy marketing!!

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Previously an elementary teacher, Arielle Haughee (Hoy) is a five-time RPLA-winning author and the owner of Orange Blossom Publishing. She is an editor, speaker, and coach. She is the author of The Complete Revision Workbook for Writers, the children’s books Grumbler, Joyride, Pling’s Party, and Sixth Sunday, the editor of the How I Met My Other anthology series, and the creator of the Focus Journal line of journals. She was also honored with the President’s Award from the Florida Writers Association in 2020.

She has a serious reading addiction, fantasy romance her absolute favorite, and loves nothing more than good conversation paired with a good wine. She is surrounded by males at home—a husband, two sons, and an energetic dog—and tries to integrate as much purple and flowers in the house as possible.
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The Unseen Hero

2/16/2023

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Guest post by Caroline Kelley

The Unseen Hero

As the sun rises, so does a mother’s eyes.

Like a well-oiled machine, she begins her day mechanically.

Going through the motions, without skipping a beat- making breakfast, packing lunches, cleaning up spills, dressing herself and her children, school drop offs and driving herself to clock in for an 8-hour shift.

When she clocks out, she fights through traffic to pick up her children from school, gets home, starts the laundry, begins making dinner, helps with homework, cleans, bathes the children, reads them a story, and puts them to bed.

In the quiet hours, while the children sleep, she still works. She finishes laundry, cleans the home, pays the bills, and makes the list for the next day’s tasks.
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For 8 hours per weekday, she works for someone else.

​For every other waking hour per day, she works tirelessly for her children.
One pays a salary, the other pays with love.

A mother’s work is never finished, you see, as even in the depths of sleep, her mind worries for all the what-ifs, unfinished tasks, and well-being of her c
hildren.

Her work is often overlooked and underappreciated, yet she carries on with a heart full of love.

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Caroline Kelley is a single mother to an incredible little boy who truly saved her life. A mother's work is often overlooked, and it is her mission to shine a light on a mother's love.
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Book Clubs

2/2/2023

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Guest post by author Bay Collins

Yes! Book Clubs are Thriving.

Reading makes better writers. Writing stimulates analytical thinking. Thinking skills facilitates better communication. Communication inspires better communities and within the communities, starting or being a part of a book club is one of the most engaging activities inside and outside of the home. Regardless of age, millions are using their literacy skills to participate in book clubs in homes, libraires, meeting rooms and there's a shift to join book clubs through social media.

A lifelong learner and reader

The book club concept was founded as early as the 17th century and remains popular today. For many readers, their interest in reading commenced when someone selected and read the books, then the readings progressed to reading with others... a parent, a grandparent, a teacher or a librarian. And in the passage of time, autonomous reading prevailed with masterful creative thoughts and ideas to continue reading books with others.

Read a piece of work you never knew existed

The facilitator and book club members will select a book for the club members to read, members may choose a popular book from the past, books that are book club favorites or books on the best seller list. Books can vary from non-fiction, historical, poetry, mystery to romance and these various genres give the reader a variety of topics to explore and discuss.
Book clubs are a great way to see the world through another person’s point-of-view, sometimes the differences can be quite intense yet informative and these different perspectives encourage communication across generational and cultural differences. This type of learning takes place without a grade, and it helps individual retain information even if the novel is in the reader’s native language or an acquired language.

Improve Skills

Being a book club member requires readers to be organized. There is a planned discussion date and readers should complete the novel to engage in a participative discussion. Being prepared may improve your reading speed, time management and can also help individuals overcome fear of public speaking.
Book discussion questions are uniquely aligned according to the book’s content and these questions often center around the characters, plot as well as the author’s insight. These questions are often given to the members prior to the meeting date which helps its members prepare for intellectual discussions.

A book club may or may not appeal to you

Book clubs are thriving and often consist of ten or less people. The latest trend is having a book club among family members nationally or internationally, now that is good news. However, it is commendable to know when a book club no longer suits your interest and it’s time to look for one that will meet your expectations to keep you reading ... there is a book club for you.
A final note: Book clubs are free to join and can be as close as a library, bookstore or on the internet. The assigned book for a book club discussion can be purchased or located online.

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I consider myself a lifelong learner and I am pleased to be on this journey of discovery with diverse ideas. My motto is today and reader and tomorrow a leader.
I relish my years of teaching children, adults and parenting our two daughters. My leisure times allows me to help children with disabilities improve the quality of their lives by riding horses in addition to riding myself.
Remember: “Words are to the mind and soul as food is to the body.” Bay Collyns
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Sensory Writing Prompts

1/19/2023

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Post by Arielle Haughee

25 Sensory Winter Writing Prompts

Sensory details add realism to your writing and make the reader feel more connected to the work. Let’s get those creative juices going and do some practice working with sensory details as writing prompts. Look at the suggestions below and see if anything stands out to you. Can you combine more than one of these in a story?

Scent

  • heavy maple sweetness combined with hints of vanilla
  • chemical stench of plastic thrown on a fire
  • flowery fabric softener embedded in a scarf
  • rotten, waterlogged stump of a browning Christmas tree
  • new leather on shiny boots

Tactile

  • scratchy wool sweater making a rash
  • granular salt being spread on the driveway
  • warm, fluffy slippers
  • sharp serrations on a bread knife
  • velvety smooth ice covering a lake

Sound 

  • wind blowing through bare branches
  • tired, strained rumble of the heat turning on 
  • crunch of compacting wet snow
  • dishes being stacked in a busy diner
  • church choir's voices drifting out closed wooden doors

Taste

  • savory root vegetables roasted with thyme
  • dregs at the bottom of a fourth cup of black coffee
  • citrusy glue on an envelope
  • decadent, moist chocolate layer cake
  • bitter stomach acid from a winter flu

Sight

​There were so many great images, we included one extra!
Have fun and let us know which one(s) you worked with!
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Unprecedented Times

1/12/2023

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Guest Post by author Carissa Turpin

Writing Through Unprecedented Times

I was born in 1985, cementing my classification as an elder Millennial. If you poke around the internet—particularly Tiktok—looking for stereotypes about Millennials, you’ll find lots of muttering about side parts, skinny jeans, and participation trophies. There’s one attribute, however, that is often overlooked: the influx of trauma Millennials dealt with in their formative years.
I watched the events of September 11th, 2001 unfold on a television cart in my Social Studies classroom. The years that followed introduced additional moments of fear on a national and global scale: anthrax scares, school shootings, wars and bomb strikes, recessions and the bursting of bubbles, a bleak economy and job market. For this reason, breaking news alerts with their intense music and stoic-faced anchors still send a peal of panic through me. I still get my news in short bursts as watching 24-hours news channels still brings back a suffocating, expectant feeling.
In March of 2020, the world received news of the COVID-19 virus. Businesses, schools, events, and life as we knew it quickly ground to a halt. I watched all the developments with fear, yes, but also with a selfish degree of exhaustion. I had already dealt with my share of unprecedented times—how would I survive yet another?
Stuck within my house for the unforeseen future, I looked for ways to distract myself. Ordering delivery and panic buying toilet paper and watching entire seasons of television worked for some time, but eventually even these activities felt stale. It was time to address that frightened, tired Millennial within me.

Thinking Back

I thought back to the first time I felt a sense of fear and helplessness and landed squarely on the predicted—and eventually underwhelming--Y2K disaster. Inspired by a conversation about Y2K I’d had with my middle school students only a few months before, I decided that I would channel my uncertainty into a story about an anxious pre-teen who didn’t know what the new millennium held for her. It felt good, as the author, to know that ultimately my young protagonist would be alright and perhaps even stronger for her experiences... That therapeutic writing sprint turned into Doomsday Dani, my first middle grade novel. It will be published in March of 2023.

An Outlet During Uncertain Times

Writing during moments of uncertainty needn’t take a global event. Writing buoyed me through my divorce, work related stresses, loneliness, and fear of all kinds. When I find myself in the midst of a unique situation—be it a newsworthy, historical event or a day that leaves me feeling glum—I try to produce something. If I’m not feeling up to tapping away at a novel or short story, I at least try to scribble in my one-line-a-day journal.
So, yes, Millennial stereotypes claim that we baby our dogs and make impulsive financial decisions. But don’t forget, too, that we’ve endured our share of uncertain global events. No matter your generation, I encourage you to write through unprecedented times. It will bolster your hope until you come out unscathed on the other side.

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Carissa Turpin was born and raised in Eastern Kentucky, though she lived briefly in Phoenix, Arizona. She currently resides in Louisville, Kentucky, where she teaches fifth and seventh grade Language Arts. She's a dog mom, book hoarder, and proud Y2K survivor. Doomsday Dani is her first novel.

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The Road to Self-Worth

1/5/2023

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Self-worth, worthiness, women, womens health
Guest post by author Alicia Griffin

The Road to Self-Worth 

The perception of a woman can be portrayed as one who holds many qualities and skills. She is one of grace and beauty, which amplifies her femininity. She masters composure and leaves you to wonder how she continues to do so under such extreme measures. Her skillful tactics are admirable yet expected. A beautiful woman indeed. But what happens when she questions her own self-worth?

There are so many factors that can play out in the, I’m not worthy, scheme of life for many of us. They can be detrimental. I can’t remember exactly when it all started for me. It could have been the minute I was exposed to what the media advertised what beauty should look like - slim with small waistlines, long legs, and full breasts. We tend to compare ourselves to other women, which has become the downfall spiral that most of us fall into. Nowadays, it’s much easier to do so. With social media and the internet just a swipe or click away, we can’t help but be exposed to this reality. Besides media exposure, rejection is another factor that plays a role in this scheme. I’m almost positive that I questioned my self-worth the minute I got rejected by the boy my heart throbbed for because his heart was set on someone else; in my opinion, someone prettier. Maybe it’s a combination of these, as well as other factors, which made me feel less worthy of the things I wanted.

The Under-Average Scale

As a child, I fell under the average weight scale. As a matter of fact, I fell under the average scale of practically everything! I was petite. By the time I was in high school, my girlfriends were far more developed than I was. They had, what I considered to be, the perfect bodies - while the occasional acne breakout was the only sign of puberty I exposed. It was embarrassing. I had no curves to claim my own. Nonetheless, there I was, far from the average group of well-developed teenage girls. As a result, I didn’t get much attention from the boys. In fact, I was ridiculed, which made me the result of their amusement. Their hearts were set on curvy girls, and I didn’t fit in their category. Unfortunately, they were influenced by society and how beauty was defined. We tend to look past a person’s personality and qualities because our first instinct as human beings is to size up their physical appearance. Is it wrong? Maybe so, but who are we to judge? The irony of it all.
A number of us fall under these well-developed adolescents. We may have been more easily desired if humanity would focus more on inner beauty rather than a woman’s breast size. Needless to say, and due to the lack of, insecurities crept its way into my subconscious mind. As a result, my self-esteem fell short, and I felt compelled to alter my physical appearance when I became of age. Did it improve my self-esteem? Only temporarily. I wasn’t aware that I had a lot of work to do - from the inside out.

Poor Judgement

​As if dealing with self-image wasn’t enough, I always seemed to get wrapped up in poor relationships. They were anything but healthy and functional. These relationships left me confused and doubtful; more so of myself. They were manipulative, which in turn, made me believe that every obstacle we faced in the relationship was solely my fault. I recall a time when the way I dressed wasn’t desirable by my significant other. What was so wrong with the way I dressed, anyways? Yet, to appease him, I wore what he chose - leaving myself feeling so uncomfortable in my own skin. I felt completely lost. Was it worth it? Absolutely not, but I didn’t know it at the time. I was young, and unfortunately, blooming in confidence was not my forte.

Was I not enough?

Can we discuss infidelity? This is a big one! It can leave you questioning your self-worth as a whole. It did for me. Was I not enough? This question seemed to sneak into my psych daily. If I didn’t feel inadequate before, infidelity really shook the foundation beneath my very own two feet to make me feel exactly that. If he couldn’t be faithful to me, who possibly would? 


It’s interesting how such a traumatic experience - and yes, infidelity can be traumatic to someone’s whole being - can alter the way you perceive yourself. It left me doubting whether I could trust or love again, whether or not I was worthy of love. It left me questioning whether I could have done something different to keep my significant other happy. Why can’t I be enough? But the truth is, and always was, I am enough. I am more than enough. 

So many of us get consumed with the grief we feel from the betrayal that we fail to see our value. I had to dig deep to see that I am worthy of real love. Only then I realized that I was no longer willing to tolerate this kind of behavior. In the trajectory of my divorce, I learned that not everyone will value a person the way they deserve. It’s our job to know our self-worth, not anyone else’s.

The Milestone

With the trials and tribulations that in essence, we all do face, I grew to learn more about myself than I ever have. I drew into the silence and did much needed reflection. Soul searching was deep, and in turn, it allowed me to learn to accept my flaws just as much as my perfections. However, it didn’t come without hard work. I had to succumb to the painful memories. Only then was I able to learn to forgive. And that’s when the magic started to unfold. With time, I began making changes within myself. I learned to love myself the way I deserved to be loved. I no longer needed acceptance or validation from others. If I decided to wear a pair of denim jeans, a t-shirt, and no make-up on a Friday night instead of getting all dolled up, so be it. I was now making decisions for myself. With self-acceptance, I craved authenticity, and I made the decision to age naturally and gracefully. I gave myself the greatest gift I could have ever hoped for - self-worth and love.
​When women know their self-worth, they demonstrate power, resilience, and beauty. We don’t need to seek validation from anyone. We can truly conquer anything in this world if we believe that we are truly enough.


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Alicia Griffin is a creative non-fiction writer who lives in the Sunshine State. Her life experiences drive her writing ambition.
website: https://aliciagriffin8.wixsite.com/griffali

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Four Female Writers

12/15/2022

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Guest post by River Jayla

Four Female Writers
​That Have Inspired America

Women’s voices are integral to the fabric of society. But much like other art forms, the literary world has historically been dominated by male authors, perspectives, and characters. It is a brave feat when female writers pick up the pen to transform this current landscape.

A woman’s journey to becoming an author does not only allow her to break away from the mold but to carve a space where her unique voice and ideas can be heard. More importantly, fellow women who choose to pursue a writing career are influenced to continue telling their stories because they know they have a place on the bookshelves and in the larger world.
​But it’s not enough that women take the lead in writing stories. We have a collective duty to uplift and support women writers every step of the way. Whether they choose to shed light on women’s issues, create compelling content, or weave a tapestry of their lives and experiences, women have shaped and continue to shape the world as we know it through their writing. Here are four female writers from different backgrounds we can celebrate and take inspiration from.

Toni Morrison

​Born in 1931 in the American Midwest, Toni Morrison is a Nobel laureate in literature whose works helped push the Black American experience to the forefront. She grew up in a culture where myth, storytelling, and folklore were deeply embedded; this in turn animates her prose with a nonlinear, almost dreamlike character. Her critically acclaimed Beloved (1987), for example, explores how the specter of a murdered child can carry the weight of a long and painful history of slavery. Morrison has also penned speeches and essays that chronicle the richness and struggles of Black identity, culture, and community amid an unjust society.

Ursula K. Le Guin

​Starting in the early 60s, Ursula K. Le Guin served as a driving force in the genres of science fiction and fantasy. By skillfully straddling the lines between the real and the imaginary in her work, Le Guin tapped into the potential of imaginative literature to tell truths, confront realities, and inspire change. In The Left Hand of Darkness (1969), the journey of lone emissary Genly Ai in a world with no gender prompts us to challenge our own society’s norms and conventions. This radical questioning of how life is lived versus how it ought to be lived is present in her entire body of work, influencing us to stretch the boundaries of our own imagination and freedom.

Sandra Cisneros

As a product of both Mexican and American cultures, Sandra Cisneros’ writing resonates among Americans who struggle to find their identity and belonging in this country. Her groundbreaking novel The House on Mango Street (1984) portrays cultural hybridity with its interspersed narratives of Hispanic women defining themselves beyond the roles dictated by family, community, tradition, and media. Female sexuality is also a central theme among Cisneros’ poetry and other works of fiction, resisting the rigid rules of patriarchy by writing about female sexual desires and experiences in a positive yet unapologetic manner.

Amy Tan

​Amy Tan has blazed the trail for deeply complex and profound works that tackle the Asian American and immigrant experience. She is best known for The Joy Luck Club, a 1989 novel that examines how four Chinese immigrant families in San Francisco are intertwined by grief and loss, cultural expectations, and generational trauma. The 2021 documentary Amy Tan: Unintended Memoir reveals how Tan’s personal challenges are channeled into writing, paving the way for other writers of color to embrace and represent their marginalized identities in their own works.

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River Jayla studied creative writing and has spent several years volunteering at a public library. These experiences helped shape her as an advocate for expanding the accessibility of literature and education in general.
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